How to survive as a rule follower. Let me begin by confessing. The subtitle isn’t completely true because I haven’t figured out how to survive as a rule follower. It would have been more appropriate if I had phrased it as a question. If this world belongs to the disruptors, how can you survive as […]
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I remember a vivid memory from when I was 10 years old. My best friend at the time, who was also 10, cooked her first meal. It’s a vivid memory for me because growing up as a young girl, I felt there was an unspoken rule that said I had to learn to start cooking
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2021 was when I first came to the conclusion that I had a paradoxical personality. It just made sense. I could be the most outgoing person you know (as I’ve grown older I’ve really mellowed out) but at the same time, I could easily tire from social interactions. Case in point: during my service year,
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In December, I turned 25. I never talk about my age in public, ever. The reason is simple, I want to avoid the judgment and assessment that comes with people knowing how old you are. I would be judged if I was older and still judged if I was younger. If you are just discovering
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If there is something more than endings that I often find myself dreading, it’s beginnings and coincidentally, they always follow each other. For me, December always comes with a pressure, to reflect, to take stock and January comes with its own pressure of starting anew. But, this year I’m refusing to let the usual pressure
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Self-reflection is something we often do as a way to gauge where we are in our lives and make sure we are not going off track. I often use to say that if anyone points out anything about me, I would probably already know about it because I love being honest about the things I
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Do you know how you could embark on a journey you never planned for, I sure do! Hey, how are you doing? Before going ahead I’d really just want to check in with you. We’re almost 90 days into 2024 (I almost wrote ‘the new year’ but wasn’t sure that was accurate), how’s it been
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Lessons from January: The Bible wasn’t kidding in 1 Corinthians 8:2 when it said (paraphrase) “If any man thinks he knows anything, he must realise that he doesn’t know as much as he thinks he does.” This lesson was a particularly bitter pill to swallow. I, who always like to plan ahead and believe that
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You packed your bags and moved to a new city, feeling nervous and excited all at once. You couldn’t believe that you were doing this, and oh what an adventure it turned out to be. Those first few weeks in January passed quickly, filled with one intense moment to the other, emotions running high and
Guest Author: Jesutomiwa Salam Years ago, I stumbled upon the concept of the stages of grief; it’s a common framework that outlines the emotional cycles people often go through in times of sorrow: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and ultimately, Acceptance. I’ve been thinking about acceptance a lot lately, and how it also applies to the
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